The Situation 💭
Recently, I went through one of the most confusing situations a guy can face.
She was honest with me. She said:
“Man gana hopes thiya ganna epa.”
(Don’t keep hopes about me.)
That hurt. 💔
But at least it was clear.
I was ready to accept it, take the pain, and walk away.
The Twist 😵💫
Then she immediately added:
“One dekata mama innava.”
(I’m here for anything you need.)
And just like that…
my brain started overloading.
Why This Is So Hard 🧠
If she had just said “No” and left, I would’ve been hurt for a few days and moved on.
If she had said “Yes,” I would’ve gone all in. No hesitation.
But this?
This is the worst place to be — the middle.
It feels like the door is closed 🚪
but a window is left open 🪟
“just in case.”
And if you’re someone who thinks deeply, that open window becomes a trap.
Your mind starts asking:
- Does she really mean it?
- Is there a chance later?
- Why stay close if she doesn’t want me?
That’s when overthinking takes control.
You lose focus.
You lose energy.
You wake up thinking about it.
You fall asleep thinking about it.
Slowly, it messes with your whole day 😔.
The Realization ⚡
One day, I stopped and asked myself:
Can I afford this confusion?
The answer was simple.
No.
And then I understood something important:
Confusion IS the answer.
When someone says “Don’t keep hopes,”
that’s the truth.
The “I’m here for you” part?
Most of the time, that’s just them trying to be nice.
Or easing their guilt.
It’s a safety net —
but not for you.
For them.
The Comeback 🔥
So I decided to believe the first sentence.
No hopes.
I respect her decision.
But I also respect my time ⏳.
I’ve got exams to pass 📚,
dreams to chase 🚀,
and a life to build.
I can’t build a future
if my mind is stuck replaying the past.
Final Thought 🧭
If you’re stuck dealing with mixed signals, stop reading between the lines.
There’s nothing hidden there.
Take the No.
Respect it.
Let it go.
And get back to work.
Focus is the only cure.